"What if I Get... Aroused During a Massage?”

Published 12 April 2025

Let’s talk about the thing no one wants to talk about.

Okay. Let’s just name it: sometimes, during a massage—especially something nurturing like Lomi Lomi or deeply relaxing like a Swedish full-body—the body reacts. It’s not planned. It’s not sexual. And it can be...awkward.

So here’s the big question:

Is it normal to get aroused during a massage?

Short answer: Yes.

Long answer: Keep reading.

The Body is a Bit Weird (and Wonderful)

Massage activates the parasympathetic nervous system. This is your rest and digest mode. Blood flow increases, muscles soften, the mind floats off—and sometimes that blood flow ends up in places you didn’t invite it to. The body isn’t always polite about these things.

This doesn’t mean you’re thinking anything inappropriate.

This doesn’t mean your massage therapist is doing anything wrong.

This definitely doesn’t mean the session is sexual.

It just means...your body is relaxed and responding.

Your Massage Therapist Knows

Trust me when I say: we’ve seen it before. And 99.9% of the time, the client is mortified and trying to think about taxes or cold showers.

If it happens, most therapists will just keep going—focusing on neutral areas, giving the body a chance to settle back down. You don’t have to apologize. You don’t have to explain. We’re trained to hold space for your whole body—even when it surprises you.

What Not to Do

Now, if someone acts on that arousal—makes inappropriate comments, gestures, or tries to shift the energy of the session—that’s not okay. That crosses a clear professional boundary, and the session will be stopped immediately.

Massage is therapeutic. It’s powerful. But it’s not sexual. Ever.

Here’s What You Need to Know

Yes, involuntary arousal can happen.

No, it doesn’t mean anything inappropriate.

Yes, your therapist understands and won’t take it personally.

No, you’re not a bad person.

Yes, boundaries still matter and will be protected.

Massage is about healing, connection, and deep rest. Your body will do what it does—and you’re always welcome to show up exactly as you are (nervous system quirks and all).

Still nervous? Let’s talk before your session. I’ll always hold space for your comfort and your dignity.

/ Christine Paner Schale 💖